Comments on: Women Are Bullying Other Women On the Job

By: HRM Today - Blog Archive » Say what you need to say

HRM Today - Blog Archive » Say what you need to say — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 21:00:11 +0000

[...] My mom used to say “Just because you’re not yelling and screaming doesn’t mean you’re not saying hurtful things.” She was dead on right. While the yellers and screamers are mocked, punished, raked over the coals and slapped on the hand for uncouth and unseemly behavior; the wilier provacateurs tend to get off scot-free. This behavior, while just as abusive and harmful to workplace productivity (and meaningful conversation on ANY given topic), is overlooked, excused away or worse, ignored. And you guessed it, women do it more than men. [...]

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Say what you need to say « Marenated — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:45:48 +0000

By: Grace Boyle

Grace Boyle — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 03:06:18 +0000

@Royce Ha! I know. I almost put in a picture from Mean Girls but decided on this cheesy one Whatever 'name' we want to call it, bullying for no reason and then giving constructive criticism or being firm is so different. Just like you say, if you're also doing it to make you feel better it's such a low blow and I think in the end, it catches up to you.

By: Grace Boyle

Grace Boyle — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 03:03:12 +0000

@Kate Wow, what a story. I'm sorry to hear about the emotional and mental problems. Companies can and should realize the repercussions involved here and I think the best companies also realize they should take care of their employees. Thanks for stopping by. I hope to hear that you're working at a much more supported company.

By: Royce Hadden

Royce Hadden — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 03:01:19 +0000

By the way the photo you found for this topic is hysterical. Shame on you girl to the right! Phenomenal

By: Royce Hadden

Royce Hadden — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 23:52:29 +0000

Reading through the articles you link, there appears to be some crossover between what they define is “bullying” and what I'd call “being an asshole”. To me, workplace bullying seems more like trying to get your way with something – either to make yourself look better, to get something that helps you/your project, to put down a competitor, etc. Just being a dick in general is more like being catty or causing drama out of spite or your own personal grumpiness. Does this make sense?

Anyway I typically find the best approach with this kind of thing is just to put your head down and work your ass, and then be supremely confident in your abilities in your accomplishments. If you can vocalize your value in real terms then no one can tell you different.

By: Grace Boyle

Grace Boyle — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 23:06:18 +0000

By: Grace Boyle

Grace Boyle — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 23:03:12 +0000

By: Royce Hadden

Royce Hadden — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 23:01:19 +0000

By the way the photo you found for this topic is hysterical. Shame on you girl to the right! Phenomenal

By: Royce Hadden

Royce Hadden — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 19:52:29 +0000