Heroism Is Situational

2010 January 19

Can you imagine leaping across your seats to thwart a terrorist attack on your flight, Christmas Day? We all wish we had the seed of heroism in us, but fear that we wouldn’t take the leap. Think again.

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Philip Zimbardo, a professor at Stanford University famous for the Stanford Prison Experiment, talks about the belief that “good people can easily be induced to do bad things if their environment subtly pushes them in that direction.”

Zimbardo explains in an interview with Newsweek that we do not know what makes us act or not act, but we do know “anyone can be a hero.”

America has an individualistic culture with pre-conceived notions about heroes. Zimbardo asserts, “We want to believe that evil is in special kinds of bad people and heroism is in special kinds of good people. We want to believe that heroes must be more religious or more empathetic or more altruistic than the rest of us. We want to believe that heroism comes from a set of personal virtues. But the social context is more important. To be a hero, what you mostly need is opportunity.”

When opportunity calls

Around four years ago, a few of my girlfriends and I started to see one of our friends begin to slip away. With her family far away, we were her home and part of her family. She was unhappy, depressed and using alcohol or drugs to numb the pain. There were moments of fear and uncertainty, but once we knew we had tried everything else, we had to seek professional help.

We could potentially forsee her anger, but not her irrationality and reaction to our decision. In holding her, listening to her yell and thrash and feeling a sense of relief mixed with betrayal as we took steps with professionals, we also found a piece of heroism rise up in each of us the night we made that decision.

The thing is, you rise to the challenge. I had no other choice. Your mind and heart go through a moment of conflict, your heart skips a beat, but then you jump right in. There’s even an element of surprise. I was calm and collected, moving effortlessly and saying the right things admist the yelling and crying. There was no room for cowards and I still look at my girlfriends as heroes from that long, cold night.

Opportunity Begets Heroism

When discussing opportunity, research shows that “blacks are eight times more likely than whites to have engaged in a heroic act in their life. The reason is simply [that] they have more opportunities. If you live in an urban area, you’re more likely to do something heroic, because there’s more crime. There’s more danger. Whereas if you live in the suburbs, the chance to become a hero is nil.”

However, just because suburbia might have a lower crime rate, it doesn’t dismiss the opportunity such as saving a child from running out in front of a car or putting out a fire in your house. I also think that generalizing race (although mentioned in this study) has less to do with the systematic social context of opportunity creates rising heroes.

We shouldn’t underestimate ourselves and pigeonhole heroism only to lifelong, powerful figures, but rather to those that can also quietly step into a situation they thought they couldn’t handle and they end up handling it, just right.

What do you think? Do situations create heroic acts or is there an innate sense of heroism residing within only certain people? Do you remember a time where you had a choice and without thinking, you jumped in, to do the right thing for that person, place, idea, or situation?

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  • http://twitter.com/freckledjess jessica c.

    Great post. You are absolutely right. I'd like to believe that at our core the majority of us are good and would do what is right and just in situations that call for action. When there is need I'd like to believe we would stay true to that.

  • http://modite.com/ Rebecca

    Great topic – absolutely situational. I also think that's why it's necessary for you to break out of your comfort zone. I'm taken back to the time when I worked at a non-profit and was raising money for their food pantry. I would take the bus to work every morning, and because the non-profit and food pantry were in a bad part of town, and because homeless people and poor families were our customers, they were also the ones I rode the bus with. My friends constantly made fun of or ignored or were disgusted by many of the characters I rode with, but I grew to know, like and respect them. And occasionally, I was able to help them. Which is pretty much the best feeling ever.

  • http://twitter.com/rachevincent Rachel Vincent

    I do agree with Jessica that most of us are good and would do what is right. However, I also think that most of us don't actively seek out those opportunities, but rather respond to them when they arise. I think that for certain people, it is in their nature to actively seek heroism. They need it. They crave making a difference in a more profound way that others. And I think it is often those people who are more widely known as heroes because they seek it out.

  • http://herestothegoldendays.blogspot.com/ Jennifer

    Great post. I believe a hero lies in anyone. It is proven scientific fact our body and mind can sometimes do things we didn't think imaginable under certain circumstances. I think, on the Discovery Channel, there was a show about that thing… Like “Super Humans” or something…

    Anyway, I haven't had many opportunities to be a hero, or there aren't any big ones i can think of off the top of my head. But I do agree, the smallest things can be heroic, if they prevent horrible things for happening, or stop horrible things in their place…

  • http://www.smallhandsbigideas.blogspot.com Grace Boyle

    @Jessica Thank you! I wrote a post about a study that I found “We're Born To Help,” (http://smallhandsbigideas.com/health/were-born-…). Similar values and hopes that you express…thanks for sharing :)

  • http://www.smallhandsbigideas.blogspot.com Grace Boyle

    @Rebecca I love that story. You were essentially walking the talk, understanding your customers and giving back in a way that was real…sort of like “getting your hands dirty.” Which to me, is real work. Thanks for sharing :)

  • http://www.smallhandsbigideas.blogspot.com Grace Boyle

    @Rachel You're right to say that we do not actively seek out heroism. It would somehow seem fake, but the opportunities presented to us can be the most challenging because we're often caught off guard. I don't know how to prepare for heroism, but rather act in the moment and be true to yourself. Thanks for sharing!

  • http://www.smallhandsbigideas.blogspot.com Grace Boyle

    @Jennifer I think everyone is a hero. Really. And just because there isn't one big event that seems heroic in your life, there were many moments you probably listened to a friend when they needed it most or just smiled at a stranger that made their day. Small acts of kindness are heroic and often times, we don't even realize what we have done or reacted to was in part, heroism. Thank you for sharing :)

  • http://www.opheliaswebb.com Elisa Doucette

    There's a hero, if you look inside your heart. You don't have to be afraid of what you are. (Thanks Mariah!)

    I think that there's an opportunity to become a more public/acknowledged/convential hero in urban situations where there's more crime. We tend to think of heros only as people who jump in front of bullets or stop buildings from being torn down.

    But as you mentioned…what about the person who grabs the unknown child from running out in the street. Or pays for a coffee for a homeless person. Or simply offers a smile and their bus seat to an elderly woman.

    I'm reminded of the story of the starfish. A young boy was walking along the shore of the ocean where hundreds of starfish had washed up. He was bending down and picking them up one by one and tossing them back in. An old man came up to him and asked what he was doing. The young boy explained he was trying to save the starfishes lives by tossing them back in the water. “Why bother” asked the old man. “You'll never save all of them. You won't even make a difference.”

    The little boy reached down, picked up another starfish and tossed it in. He looked at the old man, smiled kindly and said “Made a difference to that one.”

    I love that story. :)

  • http://www.smallhandsbigideas.blogspot.com Grace Boyle

    @Elisa Love Mariah! I also think the starfish story is adorable. Thank you for sharing it. I say it probably everyday, but it's always the little things that count :) Thanks for sharing, dear.

  • http://fiwk.blogspot.com Royce

    This is interesting research. It's somewhat intimidating to know that no amount of preparation can really help, you've just got to react instinctively in the moment. The worst case scenario would be to freeze at the moment of truth – like Nate Kaeding did for the Chargers last weekend, for instance. Ugh, I brought it up again. I'm going to go lay down.

  • http://twitter.com/LiveCharmed DeeAnne White

    Hello Grace!
    Very thought provoking post! I also believe that anyone, given the opportunity, could be a hero. I've just seen too many people act without thinking about themselves first, and dive into a situation that they could have easily walked away from. My faith in human beings is restored daily, even if we are a very imperfect lot!
    I also LOVED that The Starfish Story came up twice for you yesterday! Kismet xoxox

  • http://nothingcaneverbeeasy.blogspot.com/ Tony

    If I may, I'd argue that heroism isn't situational, and rather something that is inherent inside a person.

    Just think of the last time you saw an accident on the freeway and just drove by (not that there's anything wrong with it since for the most part it isn't any of your business anyway)….but realize that as you drive away from it, so do countless other people.

    Most likely out of dozens (or hundreds) of people who simply peer out of their car windows, there are only one or two people who would actually stop and make sure that everyone is ok.

  • http://www.smallhandsbigideas.blogspot.com Grace Boyle

    @Royce I agree, very interesting research. I suppose it's not all inclusive and sometimes, we can prepare ourselves but usually we don't know our power until we actually are forced to react and use it.

  • http://www.smallhandsbigideas.blogspot.com Grace Boyle

    @DeeAnne Faith is so important. We focus on the negative (news, pessimistic people, etc.) so often, that we forget there is good in the world and in people. Yes and love Kismet :) Thanks for sharing!

  • http://www.smallhandsbigideas.blogspot.com Grace Boyle

    @Tony Yes, I welcome the opposing viewpoint! I see where you're coming from because I do think that there is something inherent inside a person but sometimes we don't “use” it until given the opportunity. For instance, a car accident on the side of the road (which is a great example) they're given the opportunity that inherently is already inside them. Many people will pass the car accident, because maybe it's a passive situation where people are already helping them or no one's in the car. Not making excuses…because it's an interesting comparison. I also am taking this research with a grain of salt.

    Thank you for weighing in!

  • http://www.smallhandsbigideas.blogspot.com Grace Boyle

    @Royce I agree, very interesting research. I suppose it's not all inclusive and sometimes, we can prepare ourselves but usually we don't know our power until we actually are forced to react and use it.

  • http://www.smallhandsbigideas.blogspot.com Grace Boyle

    @DeeAnne Faith is so important. We focus on the negative (news, pessimistic people, etc.) so often, that we forget there is good in the world and in people. Yes and love Kismet :) Thanks for sharing!

  • http://www.smallhandsbigideas.blogspot.com Grace Boyle

    @Tony Yes, I welcome the opposing viewpoint! I see where you're coming from because I do think that there is something inherent inside a person but sometimes we don't “use” it until given the opportunity. For instance, a car accident on the side of the road (which is a great example) they're given the opportunity that inherently is already inside them. Many people will pass the car accident, because maybe it's a passive situation where people are already helping them or no one's in the car. Not making excuses…because it's an interesting comparison. I also am taking this research with a grain of salt.

    Thank you for weighing in!

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    I agreed very much, if you want to be a hero you don't have to be afraid to show others what you really are, besides there is nothing wrong with being a good one =) you just have to be yourself and be proud of all the good deeds

  • http://www.smallhandsbigideas.blogspot.com Grace Boyle

    @Credit Repair Score Agreed! Thank you for sharing.