Jenny Blake Inspires – White Lies

2011 November 15
by Grace Boyle

I love Jenny Blake. She’s a friend and blogger I’ve known for almost three years. I’ve also been lucky enough to giggle with, get down on the dance floor with, tip back drinks and talk with in person. She’s amazing.

I read her most recent post, On Not White-Lying By Omission: 12 Mini Confessions, and felt like clapping in my chair and giving her a big bear hug.

Life is messy, life is hard, life is beautiful, life is rewarding. Like I wrote last week, my blog has been my backbone, a place to voice our trials and tribulations and a place to grow (professionally and personally) but we all know it’s hard, sometimes we can’t find the words…

Most bloggers can relate that to what Jenny says:

Bloggers, particularly of the personal development variety, really have to be careful about white-lying by omission.

If we don’t make an effort to share the ugly, dirty underbelly of our lives, you might assume that everything we touch is covered in glossy gold perfection, and that perhaps there is something wrong with you if you can’t achieve that same nirvana.

I speak for myself on this, but I don’t white-lie-by-omission to you on purpose. Sometimes I need the introverted time to process what is happening. And sometimes I don’t share on the blog because I’m not even ready to admit to myself what my little ugly truths are.

Then with honesty, she shares 12 mini confessions of her own and asks readers to share in the comments. I shared one of mine but was driven to write some here as 2011 is close to closing. I encourage you to read Jenny’s post and if you feel inclined, share your own truths on your blog or here in the comments.

1. Sometimes guilt wraps my body by living in the healthiest, fittest city in the country. I have to understand that I’m not a triathalete and that sitting on the couch all day on Sunday, decompressing just may be what I need. Nope, didn’t make it to the gym all week. Trying to not feel like a lump.

2. [One I wrote in Jenny’s comments] I give unabashedly, take meetings, offer help, say yes more than I say no, yet, I start to resent people when they take, take, take and give nothing back to me or help. Isn’t giving supposed to be without expecting anything in return? Yeah. Ego.

3. I care a lot about what you think. I do. I’m not as tough-skinned as my Italian-Irish ‘tude may express. I let it get to me, more than it should.

4. I don’t do my own laundry. Too busy for it (wish I had the time and wasn’t so jam packed).

5. I’m argumentative (and part of me, hates it). Just ask my boyfriend. I work everyday on not needing to get the last word in, processing what I feel/think before speaking and to listen. Harder.

Posts I’ve written, to bear it to you, to share a piece of myself:

Now, what about you?

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  • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

    LOVE this Grace :) You’ve totally made my day and then some. I saw a card the other day that said, “Friendship is when people know all about you but like you anyway.” 

    That’s the beautiful thing about sharing vulnerabilities like these through our blogs — I feel SUCH an amazing sense of solidarity and support from you; bonded in all of our idiosyncrasies and imperfections. You posting this (and your kind words) make ME want to stand up, slow clap and run and give you a bear hug! Thank you for joining me on my island — it has now obviously become a rockin’ party 😀 

  • http://www.beatrizalemar.com Beatriz Alemar

    Way to go, Grace! Love it! I’m starting to think I need someone to come in and just fold my laundry. I like doing it…I just can’t stand folding it and putting it away. I keep telling myself I’ll tackle it tomorrow (although it might just happen tomorrow). 😉 

  • http://lamiki.com/ Laura Kimball

    Oh, love this. I read confession #3 and just about melted. I think all bloggers care about what their readers thing (and more than we probably should)

  • http://www.smallhandsbigideas.com Grace Boyle

    :) I know some people who just don’t care, they aren’t phased, or maybe they just act like it. I don’t choose my actions based on other people but caring helps, because caring is what creates a true community too :) Thanks for stopping by Laura!

  • http://www.smallhandsbigideas.com Grace Boyle

    I know! I’ve come to terms with it. Just don’t have the time and it’s something that I am willing to pay for (wrote it: http://smallhandsbigideas.com/honesty/what-are-you-willing-to-pay-for/). There are many other excuses like my complex has only four laundry units for 50 people, need quarters and are always in use when I try. Ah :)

    Thanks for stopping by!

  • http://www.beatrizalemar.com Beatriz Alemar

    I loved that post! It’s a goal of mine to be able to hire a cleaning lady to clean the house and fold laundry. Right now, it just doesn’t bother me enough to do anything about it. Hahaa!

    I’ve managed to fold all of it and put half of it away already… It’s such a pain! I’d rather be doing anything else (even going to the dentist). But, music and dancing while folding has made it more bearable today.