Just Me, Myself and I
De La Soul had it right in 1989, “It’s just me, myself and I…”
This past weekend I had an entire Sunday all to myself. No one called. I didn’t call anyone and you know what, I loved it.
I woke up. The sun was streaming through my window, warming my face. I decided to walk downtown to a cute brunch spot that I hadn’t checked out yet. I was delightfully surprised with the ambiance and food. I enjoyed a tofu scramble, iced coffee and quietly read my book. From time to time I observed people interacting, laughing with their friends or family. It’s funny sitting on the other end of the spectrum, alone but content.
I was able to get things done around my house that I had been meaning to. Catch up on errands and cleaning. Volunteered at Colorado Horse Rescue, a project I’ve recently taken on for myself. Working with horses again is therapeutic and takes me back to my years of riding and working with horses. Laundry. Yoga in the evening at my favorite studio. Cooked a delicious meal and baked in the evening.
I was quiet for most of the day. I laughed out loud. Danced alone in my room to my favorite songs. I did whatever the hell I wanted and didn’t have to oblige a single person.
Even Social Butterflies Need Time Alone
I’m a social butterfly. My weekdays and weekends are filled with work, events, visitors, cocktail hour with girlfriends, hikes, new adventures, dinner parties, farmers market, enjoying a new restaurant with friends…you name it, I’m probably there. This is why my alone time is so necessary and enlightening.
I spent time alone, but I wasn’t lonely. As humans, “we live in a society that worships independence yet deeply fears alienation: our era is sped-up and overconnected,” says author Esther Buchholz of “The Call of Solitude: Alonetime in a World of Attachment.”
I feel comfortable with me. Me, myself and I leads to self discovery and even a higher appreciation for those that I love. This is something I’ve learned overtime, which actually equips me for the times I spend socially with other people, professionally and personally.
What about you? Do you like to spend time alone? Does it relax you or make you feel uncomfortable?