How you walk through the fire

2014 February 5
by Grace Boyle

Oh what a month January has been. It has been rough. What a start to 2014.

Devoid of all the draining details of why, my brain has been a pile of mush and many things in my life has been suffering because of it.

I was running a quick errand in the middle of my work week and in my spaced out state, I was looking for a parking spot in a cramped, busy plaza center in Boulder. I saw a spot last minute and as I was making my turn into a parking spot, I heard that awful grinding sound as my car made contact with the parked car next to me.

I couldn’t believe it.

One woman walked by me with the, “Ooh, ouch. Feel bad for you,” face and I got out and looked at the damage. It wasn’t that much, I had clipped the car and the front of my car had little to no damage. I looked around desperately. There was no one else around and I couldn’t go into each store looking for the owner, as I was headed to an appointment. Flustered I wrote a note, blinking back tears, and stuck it in the car’s dashboard.

I hadn’t heard anything and I thought, maybe I’m “lucky” and the note flew away in the wind. Then I realized, that isn’t luck for that person’s car. I just couldn’t handle another setback, another failure, another pile to what I’ve experienced.

Then I got a call from their insurance agent and basically went through the motions. I’ve never hit a car or been in a car accident and like to think of myself as a good driver. Then when I’m parking, I hit a PARKED car.

I basically have accepted it, as another thing to just deal with and these are the reasons we have insurance, right? Also, at the end of the day, it’s not that big of a deal. Just piling it on top of all the difficult things that have been going on, it feels worse though.

At the end of the day the insurance company was in touch, I received an email rom the person (they did everything through insurance, so I didn’t even know whose car I had hit). It was short and simple and actually, just made me smile (even though I’m the one screwed here).

Hi Grace,

Just want to thank you for leaving all the info, I appreciate that very much
____________ will be taking care of the issue .

Thanks again for your honesty.

I’ve been victim of a hit and run and incurred the costs myself, so I’ve been on both sides. It’s not a good feeling.

Sometimes, just being honest is all you can do even when it’s not a favored outcome or isn’t immediately rewarding.

So while I’m cringing thinking about the dollar amount, what matters most is how well you walk through the fire.

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  • Mike Lewis

    Love it. As my momma would say, “Honesty is the best policy” :)

  • http://graceboyle.com/ Grace Boyle

    Truth! Thanks Pescatello :)