Interesting. I must say, that this blog entry got me puzzled. Puzzled within me. I’d like to think I’m honest guy, sometimes way to much. But as honest I can be with myself, I must admit I’m not always that way with others.

And I guess it’s easy to understand why. People are different, everyone’s at a different psychological level of thinking and thus not everyone should be told straight truth. That is, I believe, until you understand and feel comfortable with life on more complex basis.

The thing is, if you like to think of things and life on more detailed level, how one thing relate to another, what emotions they create under which circumstances etc… someone’s who’s thinking of life in a much simpler way, will never comprehend your explanation, or telling the truth. And it will backfire, oh boy, and can I tell how much damage it can do onto yourself.

Ever heard something similar to ”why are you always thinking of thing so much”, or been looked down at by others ? All sunshine’s gone when it happens to you and you ain’t ready to handle such response from others and you might spend a few weeks, months or even years living your life below its potential. But I’m getting somewhere else.

My point is, different people needs to be told things differently. And since I’m self-loving man (I would never say I’m selfish), I’m want my life to be the best it can for me. I do feel really bad when I say white lie, even if nobody’s gonna find out, so I opt for not telling full truth.

I save my complete honesty for that one special person that will come until to my life one day and will have, for lack of a better words (since my English sucks), ”brain capacity” comprehend what I’m saying when being 100% honest. I guess I met only two people like that in my life. They both were students of psychology though, and unfortunately guys =)

Just my 2 cents,
Roman

In my mind, there is no way life could be boring (regardless of lying or not). There are too many factors. I'm a firm believer in honesty and being upfront, however, I see your point about learning a lesson by doing it. There's also a way to be tactfully honest in this sense, which is important to me. I'm just not a fan of lying and I don't think it gets anyone anywhere, especially because the truth always happens to come out. I do think it depends on the receiver and how close I am to that person (he.g. ow the lie might affect them, etc.)

In my mind, there is no way life could be boring (regardless of lying or not). There are too many factors. I'm a firm believer in honesty and being upfront, however, I see your point about learning a lesson by doing it. There's also a way to be tactfully honest in this sense, which is important to me. I'm just not a fan of lying and I don't think it gets anyone anywhere, especially because the truth always happens to come out. I do think it depends on the receiver and how close I am to that person (he.g. ow the lie might affect them, etc.)

Have you seen the invention of lying, its a fairly new movie. It shows you a world where everyone simply said what is on their mind.

What I got from the movie is that telling the truth all the time makes life boring because there is no challenge or lesson to be learned.

Look at it this way, how do you learn a lesson better, by doing it and failing or by reading about it or being told? Obviously by doing it. So how it say someone telling you how to do it any good?

The “chase” doesn't seem healthy and at some point I would say, “Something's gotta give.” I suppose in the end, I just want to see that it's worth it. That we're both willing to put in the effort. Of course we get busy (for real) but I've definitely put other things aside for someone because I knew they were worth it. Those things I put aside, I never would have if it weren't for that person.

Getting back OT, I would not tell someone “busy” if I meant not interested. But sometimes I do get busy and then find that someone I enjoyed spending time with is just not very high on the priority list. That can be tough if they were expecting, say, a full time relationship. Sex definitely complicates the situation. Communication is vital, honest communication is even better.