Comments on: Guest Post: Puppy Love – Saying Goodbye To Home

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LOSS and LOVE: Transcending the Loss of a Spouse to New Love — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 18:55:31 +0000

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By: LostInCheeseland

LostInCheeseland — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 14:51:06 +0000

Er, I'm sorry you had to bear the pain of losing them both to such an extent. Being a vet must be all the more difficult when you're faced with the reality of losing your own pets. I am grateful for all the help you gave those two dogs and the care they always received at your clinic. Let's just hope they're both running and frolicking together somewhere now!

By: LostInCheeseland

LostInCheeseland — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 14:49:24 +0000

You're absolutely right JR, it's when something is not yet the past that it's extremely difficult to move on. I haven't yet accepted it but I'm on the road to accepting it as a meaningful loss. Some people don't like animals, some people haven't been fortunate enough to have them as pets, but I'm sure most can agree that the love of ANYTHING makes its loss all the more painful.

hehe the puffballs were gorgeous! I was constantly dumbfounded by their beauty. Glad to see you're a dog lover too

By: LostInCheeseland

LostInCheeseland — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 14:47:08 +0000

No thank YOU Grace for connecting with me! I think we have a lot of similar interests!

By: LostInCheeseland

LostInCheeseland — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 14:46:38 +0000

Oh wow Royce, that is so sweet! I really appreciate your comments. And Buster WAS a great name for an AMAZING dog. Steal away!!

By: Erica

Erica — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 07:49:08 +0000

Well written…and soooo true…I think that was one of the many reasons Buster's loss hit me so hard… it is like a finale to that part of our lives…The last connection to what was at the time what we thought was a “normal” family….

I know that for me and likely you: Buster and Polly will forever remain in my heart and mind! They were amazing and a part of the family!

By: Royce

Royce — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 06:15:25 +0000

This is an extremely interesting post, thanks Lindsey. And Grace thanks for linking to her blog, I have enjoyed the approximately 400 back blogs of hers I've read today haha.

Your last line is absolutely fantastic. That is super moving.

And by the way, Buster is a great name for a dog. I may steal that...

By: Grace Boyle

Grace Boyle — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 04:32:25 +0000

@Jenny I'm so happy, I love connecting people and collaborating!

Lindsey wrote a very touching post and the recent events in losing her dog(s) although sad and painful, has really let her beautiful words and emotions shine. Thank you for writing here Lindsey!

By: jrmoreau

jrmoreau — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 04:09:47 +0000

When things become solidified as "the past" I sometimes have a harder time accepting that. Certain things are harder than others like losing close family members or failed romances. However, the moment when it clicks that the past is the past, it finally feels like the steps you're taking are moving forward to your future, which is whatever you make it, rather than circling around the moments that have made you sad.

I've also had some beautiful dogs in my life that were amazingly affectionate and true living, breathing examples of what "home" felt like. I've wanted to get a little pug/mix to keep with me when I'm feeling kind of crazy off in the mid-west. Dogs are man/women's best friends without a doubt. Those two white puff balls are gorgeous!

Beautiful post!

By: LostInCheeseland

LostInCheeseland — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 03:15:00 +0000

Grace, thank you so much for your comments!

Everything you said makes perfect sense and it's perhaps morbid that moving on with your life is complicated by an older animal but it's a reality. In fact, this is exactly what my mother is going through. She lives alone and wants to sell the house that she's lived in for 30+ years (that I grew up in). Too many bills and charges, even though the mortgage is paid off. The house needs work before it will sell but with old dogs, it's not worth replacing things like carpeting while they're still living. We lost the first one in September and she was holding on hope that Buster would manage to avoid the “died of a broken heart” scenario, but somewhere in her heart she knew that she TOO needs to move on with her life and the dogs where holding her back, for many reasons.

They were loved and will forever remain part of our family. But you are absolutely right – big changes are VERY hard when you have older dogs.

I don't usually believe in this stuff, but I'm hoping the two fluff balls are back together

Thanks Jenny!